You've found the love of your life and she loves you back. Now it's time to pop the question. Not so fast! You have to find the engagement ring first.
Let's face it, there's a fair amount of pressure to get the "perfect" engagement ring for your future bride-to-be. You could probably write a book about pizza toppings, beer and which team is going to win the Stanley Cup but what most men know about jewelry probably would fit on a Post-It note.
For many men, purchasing an engagement ring will be their first experience into the world of jewelry. You'll be inundated with terms that you've never heard of before. Channel setting? Table percentage? Inclusions?
If the thought of diamonds, ring settings and gold or platinum choices makes you lose sleep at night, don't sweat it, that's what we're here for.
We can help you learn the "5 C's" (carat, cut, clarity, colour and certification) and diamond anatomy basics, to ensure that you get the very best diamond for your money You might even want to use this opportunity to score some extra romance points that will last a lifetime.
You want to be confident that the ring that you're purchasing is something that she really loves because she's going to wear it forever and ever (and ever). In fact, she will spend more time with that ring than with you and she should almost love it as much as she loves you.....almost.
Up until now, you may not have spent a lot of time thinking about your bride-to-be's personal style. You know she's a knock-out but what's her "style"?
Rings, just like anything else that we wear, should compliment her style and suit her lifestyle. This is an engagement ring and will be on her finger most of the time so it should feel natural and not awkward. Take some time to observe her fashion choices (don't be too obvious or she'll know that something's up!).
Does she like classics like t-shirts and jeans? Or is she more into vintage clothes and funky shoes? Is she into feminine silky dresses and high heel shoes? Of course, many women mix and match styles depending on whether they are off to work, the gym or shopping for groceries but, overall, what is her preferred look?
Think about how she uses her hands in work and play. For example, is your future bride active and sporty? If so, you might want to rethink that diamond micro pavé halo and instead opt for a solitaire. The higher the positioning of the gemstone on the ring, the easier it is for it to get caught on clothes, gear or hair, and the greater likelihood that it'll get knocked about. If she's a fashionista, look for a higher setting and the latest trends for your glamour girl.
What's her occupation? Consider the practicality of the ring and when she'll be wearing it. Does she work with her hands? If she has a job in which she moves around often and works with her hands, you might not want a ring that can scratch up easily so you'll also really need to consider your metal options carefully.
It's all well and good once you know your IF's from your VVS's, but if you don't have a clue what style of engagement ring will make her heart melt, then you may be heading for an epic fail.
Once you've made the decision to propose, conversations about jewelry will become instantly fascinating. Most women may drop a hint or two on the type of ring they may like, while others may be a little more direct and show you what kind of ring that they may want.
Listen intently anytime she talks about jewelry. Any hint at all will assist in your quest including listening to her gush about her friend's engagement ring. Another option could be nonchalantly asking her besties (swear them to secrecy first!) what they think her ring style would be.
Make a mental note of how your future bride reacts to other women’s engagement rings. Also, keep an eye on what other rings and jewelry that she wears (not that you weren't already of course). Delicate? Chunky? What type of metal does she tend to prefer? Are her hands small? Imagine the look on her face, and the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to show just how thoughtful and romantic you are when you propose to her and present her with a ring that is exactly what she wanted.
Of course, some men may decide to involve their future wife to pick out a ring that fits and that she likes. Even though it may run counter to your romantic instincts, she just may thank you.
Does she like color and funkier types of metals or does she just keep things simple and gravitate towards silver, white and yellow gold? Maybe she's mentioned platinum? Each metal has its own advantages and disadvantages. For example, gold is shinier and easier to buff to its original luster than another harder metal (such as platinum), however, it is less durable and wears down faster.
Style of ring: does she like contemporary designs, classic solitaires, three-stone rings or vintage-inspired looks? No one ring setting is better than another, it's all a matter of taste. Perhaps you're puzzled over the difference between a Channel, Pavé or a Halo setting? What the wha?
Here is a quick guide to setting types:
Shape of gems: Diamonds come in a variety of shapes or cuts. The most common cut is round but there are a variety of other shapes including oval, princess-cut, pear-shape, marquis, emerald-cut and heart-shape just to name a few. Which diamond shape you will choose and how do you determine your future bride-to-be's preference? How big are the jewelry pieces that she wears and what shapes are the stones?
You may like one shape, but she may like another. It's really important to choose the right diamond shape so be sure to consider all options and, remember, always consider what she would wear not what you like. It may be your money but it’s her ring and she's going to wear it for the rest of her life.
Establish a budget. There's an old rule that says “three months’ salary”. Throw this logic out the window. It's your money and your special moment. Spend what you can afford and are comfortable with.
Some women want a big expensive ring, others might be uncomfortable with a ring like that and may opt for something smaller and more understated. Keep in mind all of the expenses that come along with marriage. You really don’t want to start your lives together in debt from the engagement ring. We can help advise you on where your money will be best invested and which styles will stand the test of time.
While it doesn’t hurt to do some internet research, we pride ourselves on delivering diamond education to all of our clients. Our mission is to offer a transparent, ethical and personalized diamond experience. We always take our clients beyond the "5 C’s", to ensure that you know all of the important facts that our competitors don’t talk about.
There's something magical about presenting your love with a one-of-a-kind engagement ring. Going custom sounds complicated and expensive but it's not.
Custom designing a ring means creating your own perfect engagement ring exactly how you envisioned it. Our friendly and dedicated jewelry experts will guide you through the design process making it easy and fun for you (either in person in our office showroom or virtually). We'll work with you and stay within your budget so that you get your custom jewelry for less than what a "shopping mall" jewelry store would charge you for a similar item.
Don’t stress about ring size. With a few exceptions, rings can almost always be resized. We're very good at guessing ring size with clients, so don’t panic!
Tips on how to get an idea of her ring size:
- be conscious of how her hands look in comparison to your own. We can often make a good guess just based on this;
- if she happens to have a ring that she wears, take a mental note of the finger that she wears it on and how it fits. Is it snug or loose? Does it turn? You can easily slip the ring on your own finger and take another mental note of where it fits on yours;
- worst case scenario? You have no idea. We can always take a look at some photos that you have of her and generally make a good suggestion.